It's Different When it Happens to You

I used to scoff at such a phrase. My mom would tell me this countless times and with such assurance, and I'd shake my head and say, "Well I'll never let it happen to me." Of course, when it did happen to me, it was different. I still can't completely sympathize with others. In this case I'm talking about someone breaking up with me. I can't seem to understand why some people will sulk for months over someone. I had a total of a whole hour where I felt destroyed. After a day I stopped crying about it. After a week, I just stopped thinking about it. Of course occasionally I'd look back on it and wonder what I did wrong. Now, as I look back on such things, I'm not bothered. Granted, you're bound to feel hurt that someone no longer wants to be in your presence for one reason or another; however, you need to take a step out of your box. When you're the happy one in the relationship, you're in a box. A box that filters the bad and allows you to see only what you love. Step out of the box and stop worrying about what you did wrong. Remind yourself that you deserve to have someone that wants to be with you and that you like for who they are.

It's not right to want to force someone to be with you. In the same point that you want them to be with you, they don't want to be with you. Why should you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.

If a person doesn't want to be with you, but you want to be with them, you're not accepting them for who they are. You are merely see who they'd be if you changed them.

I suppose my way of thinking could be considered lazy, or quitting, but it has been my experience that the harder I try for something, the worse off it works out in the end.